I asked Commuter Husband "Will there be a day I do not think about Sister-in-Law?"
He says "Yes."
Here is my Eulogy - revised slightly to mask the names ...
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Hello. I am Mommy with Commuter Husband; Sister-in-Law’s
sister-in-law, Brother’s sister and aunt to Nephew, Niece #1 and Niece #2. Sister-in-Law
was Aunt to my sons, Oldest Son and Youngest Son. Thank you so much for being with
us today. Many of you drove from long distances and we are grateful for your
support and presence.
Yesterday in Sunday morning services at the First
Presbyterian Church here in Waco, Pastor Leslie King included “the celebration
of life for Sister-in-Law” in her announcements. This simple reference was so
comforting. It is good to reflect on all the wonderful things Sister-in-Law
brought to this earthly world and I would like to share some of these with you
today.
Our beginning with Sister-in-Law was in 1994. Brother brought
Sister-in-Law to meet Commuter Husband and me at the Fort Worth Kimball Art
Museum. She was a “looker” with perfectly done blonde hair, her pretty face and
tan legs in blue jean shorts. But more than beautiful, Sister-in-Law was witty
and clever. It was obvious from the
beginning that she was intelligent and creative. At our Halloween bash that
same year, Brother and Sister-in-Law showed up as the notorious Mickey and
Mallory from the movie Natural Born Killers. Sister-in-Law donned a long
platinum wig and Brother was bare-chested in a black leather jacket. This was
when we first saw Sister-in-Law’s unique gift for Halloween costumes.
The next year in 1995, Brother and Sister-in-Law announced
their engagement in September and were married soon thereafter. Once again Sister-in-Law
was stunning in her white wedding dress set against a Lake Tahoe backdrop.
Sister-in-Law set up their first military home at Fort Hood,
TX. This was where I saw her next talent. Sister-in-Law had a tremendous gift
for decorating. She could take a garage sale find and turn it into an
incredible accent table or use the just right frame for a cherished old photo
or put together sale linens that were both comfortable and stylish. She could
paint, glue, hammer, refinish, make curtains – the list goes on and on – she
was incredibly gifted.
In February 1997, Sister-in-Law delivered the greatest gift. Nephew
was born at Fort Hood and he was named after Sister-in-Law and her Sister’s father.
Sister-in-Law was an attentive and loving mother to our vibrant, active and
adorable Nephew. Sister-in-Law, Nephew and Brother transitioned from Fort Hood
to Fort Benning, GA very quickly thereafter and I was amazed at Sister-in-Law’s
ability to pick up and move as a new mother with an infant.
Just a few months later, Sister-in-Law, Nephew, Brother and
their two cats stayed with us in Dallas for a few months while preparing for
their next military move. They stayed in what we referred to back then as the
Henry suite, which is now Youngest Son’s room. At the time, Commuter Husband
and I were on the back end of a disastrous remodel and had just fired our
general contractor. Sister-in-Law came in and totally took over. Thank
goodness! She managed tile guys, the plumbers and the cabinetmakers – making
easy friends with each. I found a shower curtain that I wanted for the boys’ bathroom
but the accessories were very pricey. Sister-in-Law told me not to worry, that
she could make them. And she totally did. Sister-in-Law hand painted the
mirrors, the soap dishes and toothbrush holders – each item actually looked
better than the ones that were in the store. She also hand panted all our light
switches in the rest of the house and located the perfect tile for our new
kitchen bar base. Sister-in-Law absolutely saved us. Commuter Husband and I
will be forever grateful to Sister-in-Law for helping us complete our home.
Brother and Sister-in-Law then took their family of three to
Schofield Barracks on the island of Oahu, Hawaii. Sister-in-Law set up the next
family home in a great apartment with newly added Hawaiian decor. Commuter
Husband and I were fortunate to visit when Brother was promoted to Captain. Sister-in-Law
was doing social work and it was fascinating to hear her describe the
challenges of local Hawaiians and what she was doing to help them. Sister-in-Law
had set up what I fondly called a racetrack for Nephew. Nephew went round and
round and round the kitchen island pushing his toddler toys – it was hilarious!
Sister-in-Law was always a patient and loving mother with young Nephew.
In August 2001, Sister-in-Law gave us her next precious gift.
Niece #1 was born in Waco, Texas. Niece #1’s initials are the same as her father’s
and her dad’s spirit shined through in her then as it does today. And in
October 2004, Sister-in-Law brought our Niece #2 into the world in North
Carolina and she is named after Brother’s and my mother.
Over the next few years, we visited Sister-in-Law, Brother
and the kids in each of their homes in South Bend, Fort Polk, Fort Bragg, Fort
Leavenworth, Fort Drum, Fort Monroe, Stephenville, Seattle and Fort Knox. Sister-in-Law
was a military spouse through and through – always supporting Brother in the
next move. In each of these nine homes, Sister-in-Law worked her special magic.
I was always in awe when I walked through the door to see how beautiful and
welcoming each home was – it was Sister-in-Law’s special expertise.
Sister-in-Law was also especially loving to Granny and Pa;
our grandparents and the kids’ great-grandparents. She would visit them,
purchase things they needed, invite them to stay on extended visits and just
sit and talk to them. Sister-in-Law loved Granny and Pa very much as they did
her.
And Sister-in-Law was an extremely giving person. She enjoyed
shopping and finding unique gifts for all those she cared about. One of my most
treasured items is a black, iron Chanukah Menorah that Sister-in-Law gave us
many, many years ago. I think of her every year when we kindle the lights of
Chanukah. And even this past holiday season, Sister-in-Law went out of her way
to get a Seattle Seahawks Russell Wilson Jersey for Youngest Son. He was
thrilled with Aunt Sister-in-Law’s gift especially when Seattle went on the win
the Super Bowl. Youngest Son was just wearing this treasured jersey yesterday.
Sister-in-Law was smart, intelligent, beautiful, caring,
clever, witty, artistic, imaginative, handy, giving and funny. And all these
qualities will live on in Nephew, Niece #1 and Niece #2 who are her legacy.
So today, we celebrate the far too short time with had with Sister-in-Law.
Her memory will always be honored and present in the home of her loving family
where
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Thoughtful
Nephew will embody her spirit
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Sweet
Niece #2 will show her heart
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Funny
Niece #3 will provide her humor
And Brother will provide the strength and unconditional love as
this family moves forward.
My heart and love is with each of you now and always.
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In July 2011, Sister-in-Law visited us with the kids. This series of pictures shows five happy kids (Oldest Son, Youngest Son, Nephew, Niece #1, Niece #2) with their hilarious Mother/Aunt. On this Summer evening, we were blasting coca-cola ... the events in chronological order tell the story:
The Legacy of Brother, Sister-in-Law, Commuter Husband and me. Pure Joy.
Thank you Sister-in-Law. May you truly rest in peace.
You are a beautiful writer for those you remember, my friend. An extraordinary gift during profoundly trying times. My heart is with you.
ReplyDelete--Sallie
Thank you Sallie - so much. We all try to "do something" and this is my small thing ...
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