How the heck are we going to make this work. Our guiding principles are ...
I should really label this Family. We simply could not do this without the support of our Friends. Support can mean carpool, shuttling and feeding kids, etc. But the real meaning is in the emotional support and understanding when we drop the ball, function in utter chaos and are reduced to tears.
Week Day CommunicationsWe have joined the ranks of Skype users. Three accounts are set up for Commuter Husband, Mommy with Commuter Husband and the boys. So far, we are set up on three computers and two smart phones.
As expected, we also have smart phones and texting. Oldest Son and Youngest Son do not have phones yet but suspect these new commuter logistics will force us to expand. We have officially expanded with iPhones for both boys - it was inevitable with this crazy life.
Travel & HousingFor first three transition weeks, Commuter Husband will drive back and forth. Drive is about 4 hours. Commuter Husband will also be staying with Commuter Husband's Sister and Brother-In-Law for first few weeks. Actually it now gone to several months. Now permanently housing with Sister when in Houston - thankful.
Commuter Husband Weekend ResponsibilitiesWe have agreed to consciously avoid the Disney Land Dad Syndrome. The boys are at an age where a positive male role model is important.
So we have agreed that Commuter Husband will be accountable for the following on the weekends:
Lawn Work - The boys do the edging, weed eating, sweeping and bagging. Father/Son bonding!We have given this up in Year 2 - yard guy to the rescue!
- Grocery Shopping and Meal Prep - Commuter Husband is the cook of the family so he leaves us several prepared meals for the week. This is HUGE for helping us get through the week. We hit this one about 50% of the time.
Pool - Keeping chemicals balanced and equipment runningAdded Pool Guy to payroll Fall 2013.
- Meds for Oldest Son (allergies and minor asthma)
Household Repairs - Fixing toilets are just not my strong suit.We hired a handy man.
Commuter Husband Weekday Responsibilities
Commuter Husband can do a few things remote during the week like:
- Healthcare Bills Management - Follow up with claim providers and doctor offices is ever so time consuming!
Travel arrangements - Management of airline tickets
We recognize the importance for focused family time. We will make sure weekends are more focused on being together than taking alone time. We get plenty of alone time during the week.
Oldest Son and Youngest Son HelpOne benefit of this Commuter Family status is that Oldest Son and Youngest Son must take on more responsibilities for self-management and in the household.
Oldest Son manages most of his own Google calendar as well as filling out the multitude of forms that seem to be part of a kid's life.
Both boys have chores for pool care, trash detail, dishwasher loading/unloading, lawn work, laundry and other household needs.