Long ago, I put a kibosh to the boys' whining about not knowing when something was going to happen or where it was happening. They are expected to look at the calendar. I finally refused to be the only communication channel. (In full disclosure, I do still populate most of the calendars.)
This week, Youngest Son observed on the Google Calendar that Mommy with Commuter Husband (me) had events I am attending without other family members. Then he realized there are outings that both Commuter Husband and I are attending without kids - our kids - him. His immediate reaction was "No fair!"
My reaction is a smile.
First, it is good for our children to realize the world does not revolve around them. We constantly fight the over-parenting paradigm of our generation. Sometimes we succeed and sometimes we succumb. This was one tiny victory.
Secondly, Commuter Husband and I have been trying to carve out more husband and wife time. Time as a couple frequently shifts to a lower priority. If Youngest Son has noticed we are doing more adult stuff then we have made progress here too!